The Talk

"There are several reasons why we could not work out as a couple:

 

1) you live quite far away, and meeting you regularly would be a big challenge.

2) You are in a completely different place in your life. You have a lot that you seem to want to change, which is great for you. But I can't see myself dating someone who doesn't take control of her life to make necessary changes.

3) This entire dialogue has been one of the biggest reasons I don't think we'd work. You overthink things in my opinion, and I tend to be a lot more relaxed as a rule. I feel on edge when I talk to you, because I never know if I might say something that you'll bring up in a conversation 6 months down the road that bothered you or made you think X, Y or Z.

 

In general, what I need in a partner is someone who has her shit figured out, and someone who can make me feel calm and relaxed. I don't know that these things would exist with the two of us.

 

You are extremely smart, capable, and self-aware. Much moreso than I was at your age to be sure. And I admire all of those things. I also find you extremely attractive, as you know.

 

But those things would only go so far in a relationship."

 

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I can't say I vehemently disagree with any of those things.